a cool photoblog

24 03 2009


I stumbled upon “Futilitarian PhotoBlog” and I thought the author/photographer’s  (a Mr. Kevin Abbot) work was awesome.

So, I thought I’d share.  Because I’m just kind of great like that.

Ch-check it out!


the wedding philes: premarital counseling

24 03 2009


So The Specialist (my fiance was in the Army) and I had our first premarital counseling session this past week.

Now, even if you’re not getting married in a house of God (you heathenish tot!), I would still recommend having a sit down with a family counselor,  psychiatrist, voodoo priestess, whatever, before the big day cometh.  Like so many horses of the Apocalypse…

Why?  Because it’s pure comedy, my friend.

There’s a few things you need to know before experiencing the masochistic joy of premarital counseling:

1.  Be prepared to talk.  Alot.  Even if you don’t want to.  Even if you’ve physically stapled your lips shut prior to the appointment, something will get you to talk.  And if you’re a female, you will talk, and talk, and talk, and talk.  Because you’ll be utterly convinced that this person sitting behind the mahogany desk is fully qualified to totally fix the relationship that, prior to walking into the office, you didn’t realize was broken.

2.  Your guy will look like the proverbial deer in the headlights for most of the session.  He will restrict his answers to one syllable words, much like a Neanderthal.  “This make Bob feel bad.”

3.  Even though you’re the one who vented, and he’s the one who stubbornly remained tight-lipped, you’re gonna walk out of there feeling like everything is your fault.  That’s right, your relationship is crap piled on poop and you’re queen of the hill.

4.  Thank goodness for step 4!  Because that brings you to the second session.  Yep, you ARE sadistic enough to actually put yourself through all of that again.  You will have to bribe him to go, of course, but you have to bribe him to do most stuff so it’s no biggie.  The second session is the complete opposite of the first.  You enter the office in full-on whipped puppy mode.  And that’s good, because when your guy sees that you’ve learned a little humility, he starts to open up.  And magically, progress is made.

5.  Your relationship goes from great to amazing, and you realize that in the midst of the chaos of planning your wedding, you momentarily forgot the actual marriage—you know, that thing that starts the day after the ceremony?

Counseling helped me to reprioritize my, well, priorities.  It made me pause to really look at my habits, my shortcomings, and how those might influence the way I interact with The Specialist (he wasn’t totally let off the hook either).   But we also talked about how we really do compliment each other, and ways we can work better as a team.

In closing, you don’t need to feel like your relationship is precariously close to the edge before you go to counseling.  It’s just a healthy thing to try—making sure that you’re doing everything you can to start out your life together on the right foot.

And do the world a favor and film the sessions for a possible sitcom.

the wedding philes: registries are a blessing and a curse

6 03 2009


So…planning out your bridal registry is kind of like going on your ultimate fantasy shopping spree.  You get to wander around your favorite stores with your little tagging gun like some sort of retail gunslinger.  How fun is that?!

And nowadays, you can usually complete a registry both in the store and online, making it a very simple process.


But since when has anything in my life ever been normal?

In this episode of The Wedding Philes, I’m handing out registry advice like lollipops.  Little, candy-coated lessons I had to learn the hard way.  So take it, unwrap it, and stick it in your mouth!

Obviously, creating a registry at any store should start with some pre-planning.  First, you’ll want to take an inventory of what you already have, what you need, and what you’d really like.  Second, do your homework and find out about the stores you’d like to register at.  Many stores offer a lot of nice perks for registering with them.

Now you’re ready to…

1.  Get a comprehensive checklist of suggestions for registry items. Many stores offer this online, and you can print it right out.  I recommend Bed, Bath, & Beyond‘s very detailed list, as it includes everything thing from a wall clock to jelly roll pans.  You don’t have to register with them to actually get the list.  Target is another store that has a helpful checklist.  Trust me, checklists will help you stay organized!  Especially if you’re registering at several places.  And speaking of which…

2.  Register at several places. Give your shower/wedding guests a variety to choose from.  Consider those who are from out of town and may not have the same stores available to them.

3.  Timing is everything. There’s probably some mathematical algorithm for the perfect time to start working on your registry, but I haven’t figured it out yet.  If you’re starting early, register for the stuff you know will be in stores all season long.  DO NOT register for clearance items.  If you want seasonal stuff (like a patio set or Christmas tree trimmings) the best I can say is good luck.  If you’re getting married in the summer, obviously you’ll have better luck getting more summer-oriented swag.  Same goes for winter, etc.

4.  Make sure you get your little card thingies! Every store should give you  little cards or stickers that you can place in your shower invitations to let your guests know where you are registered.  Make sure you get these cards (if you register online, they should come in the mail) AND that you get plenty of them!

5.  Don’t expect to get everything you asked for. Like most things in life, you can’t always get what you want.  I’ve already had several people tell me, “Oh, I never get anything from a registry.  I’ll just buy you whatever I want.”  Resist the urge to smack these people, and look forward to at least three crystal candy dishes that you’ll never use.  Ever.

6.  Be flexible on the nonessentials. It’s all about priorities.  For example, I am pretty much obsessed with coffee.  Seriously, it’s the theme of my whole wedding.  So naturally I registered for a kick-ass coffee pot.  I’ve made sure to spread the word that I want a Bunn.  I’ve registered for a Bunn.  The Bunn is on my list.  So don’t get me a Black&Decker.  I could care less, however, what kind of blender I get.  If you find a blender somewhere cheaper, rock on.  Same with a toaster.  As long as it toasts, it’s cool with me.  The point is this, if you really want a certain brand/type of thingymadoo, TELL PEOPLE!  Don’t just assume people will get you the specific brand you select. Target has a neat feature on its registry that allows you to include notes with each item.

7.  Remember the fun stuff, too! I included a bath pillow and a lamp with a winged pig for a base on my registry (my future mother-in-law thinks I’m nuts).   Always keep in mind that this is the stuff YOU’RE gonna be living with!  So pick what you like!

Well, hopefully this list has helped.  Happy registering!

the wedding philes, part I: check your sanity at the door

27 02 2009


While most of the Tots is centered on news and entertainment, I’d like to, every now and again, share a little of my personal life with my readers.

(Go ahead, scroll up or down to read where The D was spotted eating sushi or where Octo-mom used 700,000 foods stamps to buy a new Mercedes…I don’t mind)

Did you stick around?  Cool, because my personal life reads like your typical favorite tragicomidramady.   So, I’d like to dedicate a few posts here and there on the Tots to what has currently been consuming my life: marriage.  More accurately, my impending marriage.

Even more accurately, the trials and tribulations of:

planning a wedding,

finding a place to live,

balancing  a budget,

balancing  a crazy family,

balancing my own personal insanity.

And last, but certainly not least, doing it all with a smile on my face and a song in my heart.

Because after all, I’m the bride.   And I’m marrying the man of my dreams, my soul mate, the half that makes me whole, right?


Hopefully, there’s someone out there who will read these posts and find empathy, honesty, and a little encouragement.  Perhaps the frustrated bride who’s trying to mediate between two families, the aggravated groom who doesn’t understand all the fuss, or the bridesmaid who wants to be supportive, but doesn’t want to upset the bridezilla.  The list goes on and on, really.

So I hope that you’ll read these posts or pass them on to someone who needs them.

I still believe, in the midst of the madness, that we can get through this relatively unscathed.  Although I think Anne Frank said something very similar to that…right before the Nazis came and took her away…

great news, bluth fans!

24 02 2009


The Arrested Development movie is a GO! And Michael Cera will be back as George Michael! And although (as Lindsey reports) he is a little bi-yotch, no one could play G.M. better!


robert pattinson alert!

20 02 2009

The Delicious will be presenting an award at the Oscars ceremony on Sunday.

Okay, I’m gonna say it…sometimes when I look at recent pics of Robert “The Delicious” Pattinson, I’m kind of reminded of Joaquin Phoenix. It’s the look in the eyes, I think. Brooding might be a good term for it.

robp joaquin_phoenix2

But heck, they also look  pretty baked!

Sorry, ladies, but Robert Pattinson always looks like he just got out of his cousin’s van. You know, the one with the giant wizard painted on it? Or like he’s been pulling a Michael Phelps, if ya know what I mean? Maybe like he’s a proud member of the cannabis club?   *elbows you* Eh? Eh?

Maybe he picked up the habit from Kristin Stewart?


Anyhow, it was just an observation. He’s still pretty nummers. And I’ll totally be, at least kind of, watching the Academy Awards (or “AA’s” as I like to call them–it seems strangely more accurate…) to see The Delicious, which is really the whole point, right?

what i’m listening to: the ricky gervais show

19 02 2009


Today I’m feeling a smidge glum, so I’m gonna start my day off right with some Ricky Gervais.

I’m a huge fan of The Ricky Gervais Show, and pretty much everything the man comes up with, from his record-breaking podcasts, to his books, to his movies.

I can’t wait to hear “The Ricky Gervais Guide To…The Arts,” but for now I’ll settle with “The Ricky Gervais Show: The Complete Fifth Season.”  I’ve listened to it probably about a dozen times, and it’s still ridiculous.  Ricky, Karl, and Steve talk about everything from Ricky’s pajamas to Nazi Germany.  Karl is, of course, as round-headed and bald as ever.


One of my favorite Karl quotes from season 5 is, “Anne Frank was just a squatter with a diary.”

If you’ve never heard any of the podcasts (now audiobooks) before, it’s time to break out the iTunes (or audible.com)!  Obviously, I’m not getting paid to say any of this, it’s just a little reccommendation from me to you.  They’re funny as hell, even if your head isn’t shaped like an orange!

Check out the Ricky Gervais website!

Here’s a little taste of Ricky, Steve, and Karl in action…HIGHlarious!